There is a principle in Daoism that may very well hold the key to happiness: “All Things Change.” Today when I was in the mirror lamenting my body image concerns I found this poem. I think it speaks highly to BDD and is a lesson in the futility of regret and worry. For me, it is also an extremely hard pill to swallow.
Life as it is – by Ralph Marston
Whatever may happen, there is no need for dismay.
Always, there is the opportunity to creatively and successfully deal with the things life sends your way.
There’s nothing to be gained by wishing that things had turned out differently.
Pick yourself up, connect with the energy of your passion, put a smile on your face and move forward with what is.
Your best choice is always to be your best. And you can’t be your best when you’re complaining or regretting or worried or dismayed.
Every situation generates a new set of positive possibilities. So in every situation, choose to see those possibilities and to enthusiastically follow them.
Each setback is just another step toward getting where you have chosen to go.
Learn, adapt, re-commit, and get quickly back on track.
Every twist and turn in the road of life gives you the opportunity to make a difference. Relish those opportunities, make the most of them, and build a magnificent life.
– Ralph Marston
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